Hun!

Lol!

That is what its like...

I just can't bring myself

to call anyone hun...

I definitely have a different perspective on life to most people...One thing I notice. What is it with the 'hun' thing. All the women in the scene as lovely fwends call each other 'hun' & they are all supportive of each other. Where as me, I will be supportive, but 'hun'...I can't bring myself to call someone hun, or sweetie, or any of the other endearing names which make them feel like you luv thwm...{Fingers down throat}

They warm to each other, because they use words of endearment. Another communication thing which goes over my head. If I was a mimic person, I would start hugging kissing & calling everyone 'hun'. Maybe it's an autism thing. Men don't continually call each other 'hun' do they? Not that I have noticed...

The reason I made this observation & felt the need to blog about it...C m's writing on Fetlife. I commented as if I was having a discussion. They commented as if they was being all nice & supportive, like she needed 'luv!'...How I see it. She's a grown up, she don't need advice. She wrote how she felt about being rushed by a bloke to play. She knows that she don't want to be rushed, she knows she won't play with him. She knows her own mind; obviously. So give her some credit...

I know. That is just how I see it. I am a bint! lol...

My comment...

I can relate to what you are saying. When I feel rushed I back off. I don't want a 24/7 DD/sm relationship, but I do want to play with someone I have a connection with, which isn't going to happen in a few exchanged messages... 

I find lots of men don't want to put the effort in. It is meet now, if I say I prefer to get to know a person before I do something so intimate, they're gone, lol... 

I have been friends with your first spanker for over a decade. When I took a break from spanking, he came to visit me just because we enjoy chatting & sharing a few bottles of red wine. He sees me as a friend not just a bottom to spank...

Maybe I could have fitted a Hun in there, lol...

oh I so agree sub_idris that man has always seen me as a friend and not just a bottom to spank and he has always said if he was about and we could arrange it a chat would be great he is a true gentleman apart from his hands lol (Concrete comes to mind). 

To be fair a majority of my spankers have been and have taken time to build a relationship. but this one just got to me and the idea i'm going to meet and go to a hotel and let someone I don't know spank me just the two of us yeah right. 

As I said I have met on an occasion and let the guy spank me but we had spoken for ages online and also the people have been known on the scene so to speak and trusted individuals that's not to say if you're not known your not to be trusted we were all new once.
M xxx

I am going to be a arrogant bint now...

See a discussion. I have come to the conclusion {Well I come to that conclusion yonks ago} I am not a small talk 'lovely' person. I am a discussion conversation person, I have also come to the conclusion that I am different to other more sociable 'community' lovely like minded peeps. I no longer see that as me being a bad person. I will always be myself. Actually I come to that conclusion about myself when I had my children. How can you dislike yourself when you're part of them & you're bringing them up to be themselves & to like themselves...

I will stop waffling now...

Oh, but first my next comment...

His hands are harder then most implements, including the wooden ones, he needs soft gloves... 

I think I have become more fussy with age, lol... 

I can't play with every Dom who asked if they can spank me. The same as I have met Doms for just a chat, but then I feel I don't want to play with them for whatever reason, but then I have to be blunt & say 'No' then give a reason. It is not always that easy, but after a few exchanged messages & a few hours chat, you don't owe them anything... 

I do have a personal check list now, which I stick to...

I'm sure I could have fitted a hun in there..."His hands are harder then most implements 'hun'"...Nah! It does not feel right...

lol sub_idris at his hands and he has the cheek to call himself on here a nic beginning with gentle hands lol. But he does has the kindest heart and the is a gentle man through and through. 

I think I am more cautious now as haven't played in over two years due to work commitments etc.

I'm definitely shutting up now...