Who am I trying to convince? Ohh! That would be my sub self...

I was just reading this article '6 ways to deliver tough self love'

Nooo! Not self spanking...Sheesh!

5.          You label yourselfAny phrase that starts with “I am” is very powerful. And our 21st-century brain knows that. When you define yourself by a label that limits you, it becomes your familiar, your known, your comfort zone. So if you say, for instance, “I am stubborn.” Or, “I am, compulsive.” Or, “I am a slob.” “Or, I am weak.” Or, “I am a diabetic.” Or, “I am bipolar.” Well, guess what? Your AB will cause you to fight or flee back to those areas anytime you start to stray from them. Sure, there may be some truth in the statements, but when you dig your heels in and wear these labels as a badge of honor or some sort of self-definition, you will forever fail to escape from them and thus not reveal your mind, the gateway to your Divine nature.

....but you can change
the way you view yourself...

I very much agree with that... Okay! Maybe not the 'Divine nature' part, I'm not that airy fairy. Though 'our nature' 'our instincts' 'our intuition'...Our mind being very powerful...I believe in all that stuff. I'm witchy that way...

So. As a sub. I will start telling myself the happy, good, positive things about me as a sub...

Stop right there...I am actually a happy, positive, easy going, fun loving person. When left alone to my own devices. Bring in the jealous judgy hater...I can ignore them for the most part. Rise above, put a smile on my face, but when my Husband, or Dom starts going along with them......Lets just say that has a niggling negative effect on my confidence...

It is not always that black & white. There are various shades of grey in between. I am not 50 shades of  'f***ked up' though...Phew! I always believe that I, you, whoever...Should look at the bigger picture. I do try to look at it from another person's point of view, but I don't always have to agree {Which I don't}

That said, I have always been told positive things as my sub self...Now I need to start believing them & not bother with the negative crappy things......Okay! So I believe them, but sometimes the negative outweighs the positive. Hence calling it a day with my Dom & taking a long break...

That said. I believe certain things should be said, but not at the expense of my own self confidence as a sub. You could say I am 'Domming myself' lol...Nooo! I am not going to start spanking myself...{Rolls my eyes}

So. I keep telling myself I'm too old, I'm too fat, I'm too quiet {So I back away from socializing, because I'm aware that people notice my quietness} Actually the blokes don't seem to mind my 'demureness' Its the women who seem to have an issue with my quietness.I can understand why, but I can't understand the bitchiness. Okay! I'll hug you....There. That better?...Hmmm!

Oops! I was not going to point out their attitude & my attitude towards them...but there you go. I blog my mind. It is about me not my bottom & spanking. This bottom has a mind. This introvert has got a personality...

See. Labels...Us true introverts are often labeled as 'Hard work' 'No personality'...& lots of other rude ignorant labels which hurt our feelings...

Nuff said about that...

I am always being myself,
even as a sub when playing...
If I try to be someone I'm not,
I feel uncomfortable...
Then I feel bad afterwards...
As if I done something wrong...
Which obviously I didn't,
I know that...

Back to the self deprecation & sabotage...

STOP! DOING IT!...

Though. For the black & white thinkers. I don't go from one extreme to the other. I am more of a dove grey thinker...

Ignore the jealous judgy haters. Be myself. A sub with attitude, who loves being spanked. Especially loves long, intense, almost unbearable thrashings. Where I am left totally relaxed. A total release. Floating up there in the clouds. Blissful soreness, which feels more like a hot all over tingle, then painful soreness...{Sighs}